Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Reading hard limits ;)

This is strictly for curiosity sake and because I'm bored and I think it will make a great discussion. LOL.

Lately books seem to be touching on issues they might not have been able to a few years ago. Specifically in romance. The male main characters are crossing lines I didn't used to read about. The female main characters are, too.

I'm not sure why that is, and not sure it matters. Again, I'm not saying this is a BAD thing either. I'm just talking, but whether it be cheating or kidnapping or stalking, or being extremely possessive or a huge list of other things, I think we're seeing more issues, that probably wouldn't be forgivable in real life, happening in books. We're seeing edgier topics approached and it got me thinking about readers. I'm wondering how you feel about these things? Do you devour any and all books that are "breaking rules" that maybe weren't previously broken?

Are there any hot button issues for you when you're reading? Certain things that you absolutely can't forgive or continue to read about?

Inquiring minds want to know ;)

And let's remember to be nice and not bring up or attack ANY specific books or authors. I'm all about loving books and for everyone to have the freedom to read and write whatever they want. Just being nosy.

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13 comments:

  1. I don't like to read about cheating...bugs me. Probably one of the reason I don't like to read about threesomes either - it just feels wrong to me.

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    1. It's so funny because one of the beautiful things about reading is how we all take things differently. How something that works for one person, doesn't for another. I don't do the cheating thing, but threesomes don't bother me. They don't feel like cheating to me. LOL.

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  2. This is such a great question. My brother just about lost it other day when he saw two guys kissing on a soap when he turned on the TV. Yet, many of us have friends that have a different sexual orientation than we do. I feel there is a need to concentrate on the 'romance' part of that.

    "cheating" is an issue many of us face and how should we deal with it. I'm still not sure how one would tackle a 'threesome' in a romance. Yet, I really like a "triangle" storyline which I think can create conflict and plot and definitely look at the choices we make in our romantic life.

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  3. Very good point. Why do we forgive in books what we won't tolerate in real life? I've really started pushing myself to confront this in the books I read. I won't give an author a "pass" for completely unrealistic resolutions: a captor becoming the hero, and other similar scenarios. In fact, I'm reading a book right now that pushed a button. And really, one of the greatest pop culture couples ever, Luke and Laura. That relationship began when Luke raped Laura.
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I would love to see/have a very in-depth discussion.

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    1. Luke and Laura are a great point! I totally forgot about them. I remember that and, it was always hard for me to overcome.

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  4. I guess it depends on how the touchy subject is broached.

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  5. As an author I am happy that things that were once "taboo" are being more easily explored in books now. Because the "taboo" is what I like writing about ;). I don't have anything I can't read, except gratuitous animal and child abuse.

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    1. As an author and a reader I'm glad at some things that are being explored more often!

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  6. I love books about suicide. But one thing I can't forgive in a book is when it promotes suicide or you end up knowing more about suicide than any normal non-suicidal person should. It's like, "I'm not going to help the reader overcome their suicidal thoughts. Instead, I'll provide them with more ways to kill themselves". To me, that's not right. Do you have the power to make a change? Then, make it. Literature is one big way to reach to other people and help, but what happens when someone who is facing suicidal thoughts or anorexia or bulimia reads about someone who is facing the same things and never make it out of it? It's not going to have a good impact on them.

    Also, I don't like to read explicit sex scenes. I always end up like "well, I had no idea that was possible..."

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  7. I love this topic!

    Cheating is a big one for me. I literally get sick to my stomach and can't get over it even when the other person can. lol

    I also can rarely read about threesomes. I'm not offended or anything but that dynamic is a turn off. I feel like someone is always left out but I've read a few I enjoyed.

    But the big limit for me that I'm reading so much of is rape-ish sex. These ultra, beyond the normal range of alpha guys. I have read so many books lately where the guy is forcing (IMO) sex on the girl for several reasons. One is to make her submit so he can *help* her get over some past sexual bad experience which is just offensive to me or potentially damaging in real life or the case of pushing sex on the heroine because he *knows* that she really wants it. And of course her body betrays her and she enjoys it. But if she said no to him I take it as no...when the guy continues it's rape. I just can't ever get over it or accept the guy as a hero.

    It's common to get the hero's pov these days (which I LOVE) so I guess knowing where he is coming from, or hearing that he feels guilty is supposed to make me like or understand him but it doesn't.

    I think pushing boundaries is great but when you offer up characters that make choices like that, I feel like I as a reader get to make a judgment on them at that point. Some people can be redeemed and some can't and I think that's fine too. not every character needs to be universally loved. Life is messy and maybe there isn't a good outcome which makes it more realistic but don't expect me to forgive and forget all the time :-)

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    1. I love your last paragraph! It's so true. Pushing the boundaries can be a great thing. I'm so glad we have the freedom to read and write what we want in that respect and it's awesome that books are SO very personal that each reader gets to make their own judgment on how they feel about books or characters. That's what it's all about after all.

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  8. Like most cheating is a hot topic for me. I hate it in every aspect in life, in books, movies, you name it. I rarely agree with it and/or forgive it.

    On a side note, I love reading about alpha males yet in real life, I would never stand one, in fact he and I would clash big time. So my obsession with them in books? I have no idea!

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  9. Cheating for me, too. Just...really rubs me the wrong way. I don't care the reasons in 98% of cases. If you'd rather be with someone else...then break up with whoever you're with first. I have zero respect for cheaters, so if the one doing the cheating is the MC or love interest that I'm supposed to LIKE? It's not going to go over well...

    Stalking/possessiveness/etc is okay, so long as it isn't being romanticized and encouraging people to believe it's somehow hot and sexy. I find it creepy and unsettling, but can obviously be a great plot if the toxicity of it is explored.

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